ADDitude Magazine covers numerous articles and helps for the person who is married to ADHD. In a recent article under the Adult ADHD tab, the title Married to ADHD: Relationship Advice for You and Your Spouse caught my eye.
In part, the article highlights Patricia White and her husband, Chris, who learned they would benefit from an ADHD coach as they worked through various issues in their marriage. Patricia was not a person with ADHD, but Chris certainly was.
“It wasn’t until the couple began working with an ADHD coach that Patricia came to understand why Chris was so clueless. He wasn’t lazy or passive-aggressive. He wasn’t inconsiderate, at least not on purpose. He was just too scattered to pay attention to clocks, socks, and other “little” things. “
I know what Patricia felt and believed. I thought all of those things about my husband plus more over the years. His behavior affected us all.
In the article Psychosocial functioning of children and spouses of adults with ADHD (Minge, et al., 2003), the authors suggested that psychosocial difficulties can be found in marriages where one partner is a person with ADHD and marital functioning of adults with ADHD can be impaired. Along with that finding, the writers suggested that marriage with an ADHD partner might be more stressing and less satisfying that marriage with a non-ADHD partner.
Attitude magazine offers a wealth of information on being married to ADHD, and if you have not already discovered it, I strongly recommend you read it, or better yet, pay for a yearly subscription.
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